How to be alone by Tanya Davis

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.

We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library. Where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books. You’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.

There’s also the gym. If you’re shy you could hang out with yourself in mirrors, you could put headphones in.

And there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places. 

And there’s prayer and meditation. No one will think less if you’re hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.

Start simple. Things you may have previously  based on your avoid being alone principals. 

The lunch counter. Where you will be surrounded by chow-downers. Employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town and so they — like you — will be alone.

Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.

When you are comfortable with eat lunch and run, take yourself out for dinner. A restaurant with linen and silverware. You’re no less intriguing a person when you’re eating solo dessert to cleaning the whipped cream from the dish with your finger. In fact some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.

Go to the movies. Where it is dark and soothing. Alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.
And then, take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you. Stand on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching…because, they’re probably not. And, if they are, assume it is with best of human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats is, after all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating, and beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things, down your back like a brook of blessings.

Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you.
Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there’re always statues to talk to and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence if only for a minute and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversations you get in by sitting alone on benches might’ve never happened had you not been there by yourself

Society is afraid of alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, nobody is dating them. but lonely is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.

You could stand, swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner, look both further and farther for the endless quest for company. But no one’s in your head and by the time you translate your thoughts, some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it is just kept.

Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those sappy slogans from preschool over to high school’s groaning were tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Because if you’re happy in your head than solitude is blessed and alone is okay.

It’s okay if no one believes like you. All experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relieved, keeps things interesting life’s magic things in reach. 

And it doesn’t mean you’re not connected, that community’s not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it. take silence and respect it. if you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it. if your family doesn’t get you, or religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it. 

you could be in an instant surrounded if you needed it
If your heart is bleeding make the best of it
There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

Hejdå sommarblond och hej hej höstbrun!

Igår fick jag mörkbrunt hår, det känns fint.

I find myself talking to sharks on my way to an island.

And in that moment, I swear we were infinite.

Nytt till kameran.

Idag fick jag ett litet paket med två nya filter till kameran.
Ett stjärnfilter x8 och ett cirkulärt polarisationsfilter. Jippie!


Nu precis lät det nästan som att Adam var hemma igen,
eller som att Bezac ville gå ut och kissa.
Eftersom jag var 100% säker på att Adam inte är hemma antog jag att det måste va hunden.
Det lät liksom som att han slog med tassen på altandörren,
så jag gick ut och skulle säga till na att sluta men så stog det en man i fönstret precis framför mig!
Eftersom jag bara gick i pjamas så vände jag på två röda och gömde mig på rummet.

Fy så rädd jag blev! Och ännu räddare hade jag varit nu om jag inte visste att det var
fönsterputtsarmannen som var här.

Jag lär ju dö när han börjar på mina fönster!

Fantastic mr. Fox

Jag såg precis klart Fantastic mr. Fox, den var himla bra!

Amanda Woods!

I går kväll cyklade jag, David och Niklas till golfbanan och slog bollar.
Jag vågar nog påstå att jag var bäst!


Det här är vad jag har ägnat större delen av dagen till!


Jag älskar min säng just nu, den ser så härligt inbjudande ut!
Jag längtar verkligen efter att bara slänga mig i den och somna! Mmmm.



Idag har jag plockat björnbär.
Nu har jag bosatt mig i sängen, lyssnar på guldkanalen och äter bär!

Jag dör.

Jag går i sönder varje gång jag tittar i min mapp med fina bilder. Alltså verkligen, GÅR I SÖNDER!


Sånt här tycker jag är otroligt. Skon till höger är Miu Miu och de kan man
köpa för, skulle jag tro, runt 3000 kronor.
Skon till vänster kan man köpa på för 549 kronor. Otroligt.

Anna Karina.

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